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We’ve been a family of boys for a long time but from the time I was pregnant with my oldest son, my husband and I always talked about how cute little girls look with pierced ears.

It was a frequent topic of conversation . . . hypothetical of course since our boys weren’t likely to want their ears pierced anytime soon so we loosely decided that if we ever had a girl we would pierce her ears.

I had settled into the role of a mother of boys pretty firmly when my daughter was born. When she was only days old, my husband asked, “So, when do we get to pierce her ears?”

And I couldn’t do it.

I still think pierced ears area adorable on a baby. I just don’t think I can do it to MY baby. Her perfect little earlobes are so sweet as they are that I hate to do anything to change them.

I was about 6 when I pierced my ears for the first time and as terrified as I was, it’s one of my most vivid memories of childhood and something that I had anxiously looked forward to. I wouldn’t trade that and I wonder if I’m taking that rite of passage away from my daughter by piercing her ears when she’s so young.

For now, I’ve stalled. I told my husband, “I’ll pierce her ears when she’s 3.”

I’m still not so sure if I’ll be able to do it then but parenting has always been one of those things that you learn as you go. I figure I’ll know when it feels right.

Would you pierce your baby’s ears? 

 

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4 Responses to Would you pierce your baby’s ears?

  1. angietune says:

    Rachel,

    Was searching for a GF’s blog and came across yours. Enjoyed reading and had to laugh when I came to the
    post about debating whether or not to pierce your dd’s ears now. I had the same dilemma with daddy. He wanted it done and like your dh said, “…so, when do we get to pierce her ears?” Surprised, I didn’t realize he defintely liked the idea of his little girl getting earings and looking like a “princess”. Afterall, she was “daddy’s little girl,” and he wanted everyone to know it and wearing cute little earrings would signal to others that fact.

    Like you, I was unsure when to do it. Mine were done early, but my sister had to wait due to ear infections. She always wished mom had done hers too as an infant like mine. I always looked cute with little earrings in all my baby pictures.

    I decided to wait, but kept seeing more and more babies and little girls w/ cute little earrings. Secretly, I wished I had done them earlier. As you said, “… I still think pierced ears area adorable on a baby. I just don’t think I can do it to MY BABY.” I felt the same way and didn’t want to hurt her. I went home and asked dh again what he thought. Surprisingly, he said that really wanted our dd to have earrings. I was stunned and realized I was still having angst about doing it. I knew how darling it looked.

    When I asked our ped for her opinion about having our dd’s ears pierced, she reached in her pocket and
    took out a picture of her six month little girl with pearls in each ear, saying,” …this is what I think.”

    She encouraged me to go ahead and said it was best as an infant when mommy could care for them. I was totally relieved and without guilt when she said if they cry it is because of being restrained or the noise near their ears. I was convinced and dh was very happy that I had changed my mind.

    Our ped said it was fine whenever mommy would care for them, however, older little girls ages 2-5 tend to play with them and get infected so earlier is best. She gave me some suggestions for moms having their dd’s ears pierced which included some OTC meds to minimize any discomfort. She recommended Piercing Pagoda due to their level of professional training and experience in infant ear piercing. We took her there and were very pleased!

    I’d say since your’re still thinking about it, then your mommy intuition is telling you now is best and I’d go ahead. Promise she’ll thank you later for piercing her ears as an infant. You won’t be taking a rite of passage from her. There are plenty to experience as mom and child. If your’re still unsure how she’d look, then hold some of your studs next to her ears in front of the mirror. Warning: she’ll look very cute.Hope I haven’t offended you by writing you. When I wanted them done, I was searching for info and thought you might be interested too.

    If you’d like our ped’s suggestions, write me an e-mail.

    Angietune@hotmail.com

  2. I personally wasn’t allowed to get my ears pierced until I was 12. It was for my 6th grade graduation and a rite of passage that I was turning into a woman. It is also a very vivid memory and the lesson in patience and waiting for something you really want was a good one.

    It’s completely your call but if you are ever anxious about something there’s usually a reason. This is not a major decision that affects her health or happiness so I would say do it when you are excited and ready for it.

  3. andrea says:

    when we had our little girl, i wanted to pierce them right away, but hubby said no, she could get them done when she asked to get them done. well at 3yrs she started asking, and he very begrudgingly gave in. my only advice would be make sure you go somewhere that does both ears at the same time ;) and get real gold (or at least real silver, not plated) earrings…they aren’t that much more expensive, and much less chance of allergic reaction…. our daughter had absolutely no issues (didn’t even cry when they went in), and luckily she didn’t fight me on the regular cleaning of them (at 3 she loved them and didn’t want to risk losing them lol), but if it had been my choice I think i would have done it sooner, because as a toddler/preschooler, there is always more involved in the care ;)

  4. angietune says:

    Rachel,

    Just checking my post on your blog and post,”Would you pierce your baby’s ears?” I know you were on the fence about your first daughter in a houseful of boys. However, I know you were giving is serious consideration asking other moms their opinions.

    I certain agree with your original comment, “…it was a frequent topic of conversation . . . hypothetical of course since our boys weren’t likely to want their ears pierced anytime soon so we loosely decided that if we ever had a girl we would pierce her ears… When she was only days old, my husband asked, “So, when do we get to pierce her ears?” And I couldn’t do it. I still think pierced ears area adorable on a baby. I just don’t think I can do it to MY baby.” All moms feel this angst not wanting to hurt their baby girl in any way. When I ask our ped, she said if they cry, it is because of being restrained or the noise of the instrument near their ears. When I heard this, I was relieved and did it the next day.

    Just wondering if you went ahead and had your dd’s ear pierced or not. Would appreciate a note if you get the opportunity.

    TIA

    Angietune@hotmail.com

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