Strange as it seems I feel like I have been gone from my life forever! Then again so much has happened in such a short time that will forever change our lives that the feeling is probably normal.

Just in case you missed the post It’s another healthy baby boy for Kate I had a baby three weeks ago. I am continually amazed at how fearfully and wonderfully made we are. With this pregnancy my body knew exactly what to do. My labor was fast and furious (only 3 hours) and the physical recovery went so well I tossed that darn peri bottle within the first week. The part I had forgotten about was those horrible post pregnancy hormones. You know, the ones that make you cry everyday for no reason and give you such bad cramps while nursing you could swear another child is trying to get out. I would like to look at the positive and remember how the cramping is what is getting my stomach back to what it once was but in the end I just hate the out of control feeling they give me…and then I go and cry about it.

I can now understand how overwhelming life with two kids can seem. I had my first day without help and I’m not afraid to admit I was petrified. I know other moms do this, but how? What happens if the baby has a bad night and I get no sleep? I can no longer nap when the baby naps during the day, the toddler would tear the house apart! What about when I am out in public and the toddler throws a tantrum while I am nursing and don’t have a free hand? Or worse, what if he starts running away and not listening to my pleas for him to come back while every single space on my body is holding, cradling or grasping the baby and all his ‘stuff’? It’s these fears that can overwhelm me if I focus too much on them. But I was determined to master this day! Thankfully the toddler and baby both cooperated. We took a trip to the park and no tantrums ensued. I was even able to get both kids to nap at the same time!

Wearing the baby and pushing the toddler on a swing. Ahh life with two kids.

Wearing the baby and pushing the toddler on a swing. Ahh life with two kids.

It’s little victories and taking it one day at a time at this stage in life. Not letting whatever fears you have scare you into inaction.

What fears did you have after having a baby?

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Kate Wilkinson is a wife to an amazing man who loves to cook (yes she knows she’s lucky!) and is blessed to be a stay at home mom to her two very active boys, Little Man and Punkin. Come join her adventure to maintain sanity while she juggles a VERY energetic toddler, housework that never seems to end, and the occasional date night that isn’t thwarted by falling asleep in the movie theatre. When mommy brain allows Kate blogs at RetroModernMom.com about family, faith and the funny things in between. It may be hard living in LA but she’s a modern mom doing it the old-fashioned way.

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11 Responses to The fears of handling two kids

  1. Madeli says:

    I only have one and I feel that there is so much to do and I’m always tired. I think about my friends who have two and wonder how they do it. How do they even go to the store or use the bathroom! I have crazy fears about having another one. Thanks for writing about this. I can’t wait to hear about your journey as a mom of two! Congrats again.

    • I thought the same things before I had two. I surprised myself and did a trip to the store yesterday with both in tow. A little stressful but I made it without a kid dying or crying so I felt pretty accomplished.

  2. Elizabeth Hunten says:

    Kate, get ready to have some more help later on this month! Aunt Betsy is coming! :) I’ll e-mail you with some dates and we can put it on the calender! Can’t wait! xo

  3. I remember feeling overwhelmed with two little ones, it is a bit scary. But somehow it all works itself out and you are stronger than you think. Multitasking takes on a whole new level. Just remember to breathe and ask for help when you need it.

  4. jillsimonian says:

    Kate! Congratulations lady! And yes… we ALL have the same fears. (I did.) But to get to business and be frank about it: You just have to plan your day around those two adorable little blessings. My golden rule (with 2.5 and 1 year old girls): Do NOT go out unless everyone is already fed. I know it sounds silly, but this philosophy has saved me from having to deal with some of the situations you point out above. (Of course I have more rules, but this is the major one…. ha!) OH! And never, never, NEVER think you can skip drinking your daily coffee (although you’re nursing, so that might be hard… but it’s the most golden source of energy for me…) Hang in there and just take it day by day!

  5. Catherine says:

    I was nervous to have two kids all on my own. I think my biggest fear just before and after my youngest was born was that my oldest would not handle the transition from only to oldest. At nearly 5-years-old she was used to our world revolving around her. My fears were unfounded. Everything was fine. I agree with Jill, just take it day by day and everything will fall into place.

    Congratulations, Kate!

  6. Congratulations! It’s definitely a big change going from one to two, but I think it’s also a great opportunity to teach patience and sharing to the older sibling. Babywearing definitely helps a lot too. The best thing to do is take it day by day and when you feel a little overwhelmed just take a deep breath and accept help from others!

  7. victor says:

    Im a father of a 5 year old beautiful girl and now, a month old son as well.
    I keep thinking, WHY? why? WHY? do this all over again.
    Once my daughter turned 4, things got so easier, she gets up herself, cleans herself, dresses herself, now im doing this all over. Its dredful to think about, But not much I can do.

    I just hate starting this all over again, and when my son finally gets semi-independent and sleeps all night, I’ll be 29, omg! wow, can’t do this!

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