I’ve just reached my first truly really bittersweet milestone as a parent…

…the first day of Kindergarten!

My first baby, the one who made me a mama, is now in school…everyday. No more baby, no more toddler, no more preschooler, but a full-fledged school-age boy! This bittersweet milestone occurred more than 3 weeks ago already, and it still tugs at my heartstrings a bit. It’s a BIG change– one that changes our family forever (in addition to all the other big changes around our house in the last month or two, like having another baby). It comes with a certain level of stress, busyness, and excitement. I’m still in some level of disbelief!

It’s been said that “good parents give their children roots and wings. Roots to know where home is, wings to fly away and exercise what’s been taught them” (– Jonas Salk).

The “roots” part has been easy. Ok, well, maybe easy isn’t the best word. But, it’s been comfortable. It’s been all those things that I envisioned in being a mom. But, the “wings”?! Ugh! That’s tough! Of course I want to raise a confident, independent, critical-thinking, happy little person. And, in my brain, I know that he has go to school, he has to spread his wings without me, and he has to grow-up. But, my heart just isn’t quite jiving with that logical brain!

I worry about how he’ll do academically, socially, emotionally. Worry about what he’ll be exposed to, how his feelings will get hurt, and how it will affect him. I know it’s part of the process, part of growing up, part of learning, part of letting go. But, goodness, why is spreading their wings so hard?! And, furthermore, why do those wings have to fly so darn fast?! I just know that I’m going to take a long blink and then we’ll be dealing with spreading scary teenage wings. {tear}

So, while this little guy has to go off and practice spreading those wings, I’m going to work hard to keep those roots growing healthy at home!

Did YOUR family have any bittersweet back-to-school milestones the last few weeks?

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Sara Wellensiek is a mom of 3 little guys who hung up her high school biology teacher lab coat in order to spend more time at home with them. When she’s not playing dinosaurs, cars, or doing a million other “mom” things, you can find her blogging at Mom Endeavors or chatting on Twitter and Facebook.

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10 Responses to Spreading their wings

  1. Anita T. says:

    Hi Sara! I have to tell you it’s NEVER easy to let them “FLY”…. We just dropped off our son (who’s an only child) two weeks ago at college and it was and still is HARD to let him go. (Even though he’s only 2 hours away!) I STILL worry about how he will do socially and academically. He’s a smart and friendly kid but marches to the beat of a different drummer. But I’m hoping ‘being different’ will be just fine in college! Anyway, I feel your pain. You will never stop worrying about your children but you have to let them go and FLY!

  2. So sweet! My first baby’s off to Kindergarten this year, too. I can hardly believe how quickly the time has flown.

  3. 2wired2tired says:

    My youngest just went off to kindergarten this year too. It was really tough. I never thought I’d be a mother who would cry but things were so emotional at that time it really got to me. It still does and is a huge adjustment having both my children gone all day. Whatever happened to half-day kindergarten so the parents could adjust?

  4. Such a sweet post! It’s so hard for the Mama’s!

  5. Funny thing – I did not cry the first day of Kindergarten when I sent my first, but I actually got choked up on the last day of kindergarten!! I think it was because now I knew she really wasn’t a baby anymore. Kindergarten they are still so little, cute and innocent.

  6. Jenn Quillen says:

    Aw, my daughter was always in daycare and preschool so Kinder was so easy for me.

  7. I get you. I’m so bad that I cried every year for my daughters’ first day of school. Forget about when my older daughter moved out for college.

  8. Congrats on the first day of school. It is a memory that you will hold onto forever.

  9. I hope your little one had a great first day! My youngest, Molly started preschool this year – there were no tears from her… but quite a few from me! :)

  10. KateW says:

    Beautiful post! I love that quote and you are right it’s a tough thing to learn to let go. I have a feeling when my son goes to pre school next year I am going to be a wreck. I am already coveting my one on one time with him knowing it will come to a close when the second baby comes in February.

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