Little Man will be four in June and we are nowhere near being potty trained… and frankly I am beginning to feel embarrassed. There. I have said it. I know potty training is all about the readiness of the child and boys can take longer, but when we are at the playground and he is the only kid his age with a diaper sticking out of his pants I feel embarrassed. Are the other moms looking at me and thinking I am lazy or *gasp* my son is “slow”? It’s hard not to let your evil mind get the best of you by creating judgments of inadequacy.
It’s not like we haven’t tried. Our first attempt was this past summer when we let him run around outside with no diaper. I pumped him full of salty snacks and juice yet this kid held his pee for FOUR hours! Can you believe it!? I can barely do that after a glass of water, and he had THREE juice boxes! By 2pm we had to call it and put him down for a nap with a diaper… which of course he peed in.
I decided to try again and did a full day at home experimenting between underwear, nudity and Potty Patrol diapers. Did I mention we have carpet in pretty much the entire house? It was such a scary experience for me that I was starting to think I wasn’t ready.
Offering a small toy as a reward only resulted in the poor boy sitting on the potty for 45 minutes until he peed – got to give him points for determination. We have tried his favorite underwear as an incentive (along with other things) and have shared all the benefits of the potty but each time we ask him about peeing on the potty he simply says, “I’m not ready.” This from the kid who tells me he needs privacy to poop and insists I leave the room. This from the child who tells me immediately when he’s done pooping and demands to be changed ASAP. This from the boy who can undress and dress himself completely.
Yes I am sure we could push him and create a miserable experience for the both of us but at this point, with another very mobile baby, I’m not sure I have the energy for the follow through. I guess I will just have to wait until the desire to not have two in diapers outweighs his opinion that he isn’t ready.
At what age did your kids get potty trained?