Now that I’m a mom, Mother’s Day means something. It always did (being a daughter who happens to be really close to her mom), but now it really means something. It’s personal. I was inexplicably lucky to be raised by a mom who I actually want to replicate move-by-move as I raise my own two daughters (ok, almost, with a few exceptions of course). So, in honor of my own fabulous mom this week (who ultimately inspired my own big experiment), I’m tattling what she never did.
You never allowed me to think that I couldn’t handle anything – and I do mean ANYTHING – that comes my way. Ever.
You never fed into my idiotic adolescent whining about how some event in my young life (an onstage performance, academic challenge or dating relationship) didn’t go as perfectly as I had unrealistically imagined it in my head.
You never hesitated to use your famous words “Handle It” whenever they were remotely relevant.
You never tried to persuade me to become an attorney when I took that confusing LSAT course and hated it so much (so many years ago) just so you and Dad could tell people “My daughter is applying to law school.”
You never suggested that it was remotely okay to sit back, relax and not volunteer and/or contribute to anything greater than yourself.
You never lied and told me that I looked like a million bucks when I actually looked like total junk for no good reason and needed to get my act together… and possibly add some highlights to my hair.
You never made me feel guilty, selfish or wrong for wanting to create my life and live it 3 whole hours (driving in a car) away from you.
You never made me feel that I can’t call on you for anything at any time… even if it’s to talk about something really inane (like, The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills) or to whine about something that I can’t control (although “Handle It” often still sneaks it’s way in).
MY MOM, MY FRIEND, MY MENTOR… (And now, the best Grandma ever!) I hope and pray that I don’t do any of these things for my girls either. I LOVE YOU AND THANK YOU FOR ALL OF IT.
HAPPY MOTHERS DAY, MOMS! IS THERE ANYTHING YOUR MOTHER NEVER DID?