child and babysitter
I’ve always been hesitant to leave my son with anyone other than family. He’s just over a year old now, and I’m still a bit of a worrywart “new mom.” I stress over every little thing. I never trust that anyone can do as good of a job with my little guy as I can, and I question babysitter qualifications to no end. A few months ago, I dipped my toe into the childcare water by hiring an in-home helper once weekly for just four hours. She came highly recommended from a friend, so I started having her over to play with my son while I worked in the other room.

My son was as skeptical as I was at first, and we had a few incidents of him crying for mom since he knew I was just around the corner. That stopped pretty quickly, though, as I showed the babysitter his favorite activities and snacks. I was blown away by her skill and the ease with which she handled him. She doesn’t have any children of her own, but she works in the nursery at church with kids my son’s age. A former opera major, she sings to my son the whole time she’s here, whereas I’m completely tone deaf. He loves it. She’s eternally cheery, saying things like “woopsadaisy” when he falls down and instantly distracting him when he gets cranky. The woman is a Godsend.

I’m so relieved to have found the help I need and to have someone around that my son has warmed up to other than his small circle of family. There’s no more screaming for mommy when I need to get some work done. The last couple of times the babysitter’s left after watching him, however, we’ve had the opposite problem: he cries his little head off as soon as I enter the room and he realizes it’s time for his playmate to go home. She’s sweet about it and explains to him that she’ll be back soon, but to be honest…it kind of kills me. He’s always happy to see me and all, but I feel like I don’t measure up to this woman who dotes on him with no distractions. What am I, chopped liver? I try to do something really fun with him as soon as she leaves, taking him to the park or on an errand, but it doesn’t seem to make a difference.

Have any of your kids ever liked the babysitter too much?  What would you do if your children cried when it was time for the babysitter to leave?

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4 Responses to He cries when the babysitter leaves

  1. ktphop says:

    I had my kids in daycare when they were that age, and we went through periods when they would refuse to leave when I arrived to pick them up at the end of the day. It was heartbreaking, but it didn’t last. Take heart, mama. This too shall pass.

  2. Graciela says:

    IT’S HAPPENING TO ME RIGHT NOW. MY DAUGHTER IS 21 MONTHS OLD AND THIS LADY HAS BEEN TAKING CARE OF HER SINCE SHE WAS 4 MONTHS. NOW, WHEN I PICK HER UP, SHE CRIES AND REACHES OUT TO HER. IT HURTS SO BAD BUT AT THE END OF THE DAY, YOU’RE THE MOM AND IT WILL PASS….I HOPE SOON, VERY SOON.

    • Chelsea Day says:

      It did eventually pass for us, thank goodness! Now he won’t leave my side. Kids go through phases with their preferences but at the end of it all, you are their mom and you’re irreplaceable.

  3. Marty says:

    This just happened to me for the first time and it broke my heart. My little one is 11 months old; does this truly pass?? I already struggle internally about being a working mom with a demanding job, this certainly doesn’t help me understand that it’s ok to not stay home with her every day.

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