Entering the world of multiple children can be scary. How will I manage two children with such different needs? What will I do if I am breastfeeding and the toddler is in another room putting his life in danger? And how on earth do I continue to manage my current responsibilities with double the amount of work?
There are so many fears that begin to creep in when we start growing our families. Here are a few words and tips that I hope will encourage you as you prepare for life with multiple children.
- It’s rare that both kids will be in dire need of you at the same time. It may feel like it, but I promise — you will learn to prioritize! And they probably won’t both cry at once (not most of the time, anyway!). 😉
- Never use the baby as an excuse for not doing something for your older child. Instead of saying, “I can’t pick you up; I’m feeding the baby,” try saying, “Mommy’s hands are full right now; can you come sit next to me on the couch and I can read you a story?”
- Be sure to spend some special time with your oldest child while the baby is still a newborn. It really helps solidify and reassure him of the fact that your love and affection for him hasn’t changed.
- I know it’s hard to imagine, but you WILL love both kids equally. You may not “like” them at any given moment 😉 but your love really does grow, not divide.
- Don’t worry so much about creating bad habits. Babies can’t be spoiled, and toddlers won’t rot their brains if you need to turn on a TV show so you can grab a shower.
- Give yourself grace as you figure out life with more than one child. This phase in life is hard, and it’s okay to let things go. You don’t have to be Supermom!
- Lastly, invest in yourself. I know it’s hard to find the time or energy, but find something that feeds your soul and make a date for yourself to refresh. You’ve got this, Mama!
So what tips do you have for preparing for a second child?