When I found out I was having another baby I was scared of having two babies close together, but I was also very excited. While four kids sounded like a lot, I had no doubt in my mind that I would be able to manage. As my pregnancy went on and my youngest at the time grew into more of a toddler, I realized I might be in some trouble.
I had spaced out my three older kids very carefully on purpose. They are all around three years apart. I felt like that age difference would allow them to be close together, but would also make adding another newborn to the family more manageable. But when my youngest was eight months old we found out we were expecting again. There would be no break from diapers between these two children.
Shortly after our daughter was born, our youngest son turned 17 months old. If you’ve ever had children then you know that 17 months is smack dab in the middle of the busy stage. Even with doors closed, cabinets locked, and gates up, he manages to get into something he shouldn’t be getting into. Sitting down to nurse my infant makes my reaction time slower if I need to chase after him. Before I know it he’s on top of the dining room table tearing everything apart.
Then there are the diapers. So many diapers. I’m not a fan of changing diapers. Who is? Newborn diapers aren’t so bad, but the must be changed often. Toddler diapers aren’t as frequent, but they are hard to wrangle and so gross. It gives me a lot more motivation to start potty training, but of course finding the time to be consistent with it is not going to be easy either.
Not everything is bad, though. My toddler still takes awesome afternoon naps. Long ones. I am able to sit down and relax while feeding the baby, and when she is full and happy, I can even straighten up the house a little. That little break is extremely helpful each day, even if it’s only for a couple of hours.
What I’m most excited about is watching their relationship blossom. Although it’s a challenging task to take care of two babies so close together, I can already see that they’ll be best friends. He bombards her with overzealous hugs and kisses and shows great concern every time she makes the tiniest noise. He will be her protector and her best friend. And for that, I think it’s worth the challenge of having two babies so close together.
How close together or far apart are your children?