I just had a baby (ok, well, it’s been a month now, but it feels like it’s only been a few days). Isn’t he sweet?
And, even though this little guy is only a month old, we’ve already been asked repeatedly, “so, are you gonna keep trying for a girl?” See, here’s the thing…that precious little one isn’t my only little guy at home. He’s my third. Yes, three little boys! And, apparently having three little boys is an anomaly or crazy or something, because I get this question (or remarks like it) often. In fact, it even happened in the hospital right after giving birth last month! When I was pregnant with #2 & we found out he was indeed another little boy, some people’s first statement upon hearing the news was, “so are you gonna try for a girl”? Seriously! Perhaps I could just enjoy this pregnancy or this baby.
Here’s the deal…we weren’t trying for a girl. We wanted three kids. And, given my husband’s and my biology background (I was a high school biology teacher & he’s a molecular biologist), we were well aware that we could end up three of the same gender! We know how it works and we would be NO more likely to have a girl the 4th time around than we were the 1st.
Would I love to have another girl in the house? Sure. I saved all my cabbage patch dolls from childhood and my mom even saved some of my dresses. Would I love to have someone to wear them? Someone to dress in ruffles and cute girly clothes? Yes, I would. But that doesn’t mean I don’t love having our boys or that our whole goal was just to “try for a girl”. Quite frankly, the question seems to suggest that something is wrong with having boys, that they’re somehow less desirable than a little girl, or that the only reason we have three is because we were trying for a girl. And, that really frustrates this all-boy mama as I love these three little guys more than life itself!
Have YOU gotten this question? Do moms with all girls get asked all the time about trying for a boy?