Are you done having kids? Are we going to have any more? As Chelsea let us know last week, “stop asking me if I’m having more kids!“ It’s a question that gets asked a lot! The other question I still get all the time is, “are you going to try for a girl?” UGH! So, really, we know that the answers to those questions are not anyone’s business. But, what about answering those questions for yourself?
We have three little boys, the youngest of which just turned a year old. They’re fun, and beautiful, and busy, and hard work, and try my patience, and ultimately bring me the utmost joy. See, aren’t they sweet?! So, here’s the deal… I always said I wanted three kids. Four always seemed like too many and for reasons I won’t go into right now, I was absolutely adamant about not having just one or two. So, we now have three…exactly what I said I always wanted. And, yet, I somehow don’t feel “done.” How do you know that you’re done?
I have friends who have had their stereotypical two kids and they.are.done. They are sure of it, adamant about it, and seem confident in their decision. But, I’m not feeling that way. It’s hard for me to believe that this is the last baby. No more pregnancies (which I genuinely loved), no more newborn smell, no more adorable little toes, no more baby clothes, no more first steps. Gah! I’m getting a little teary just thinking about it. Plus, I have the added component that everyone (seriously, even strangers), suggest that we should try one more time for a girl!! Admittedly, I would love to have a little girl too! I’ve never been shy about that. But, there are no guarantees. It’s no more likely that #4 would be a girl than #1. So, I’m not making any decisions based on that!
Of course, my husband would remind me that if we’re done, they’re will be no more pregnancies , no more newborn exhaustion, no more baby gear, etc. All of that is so true. And, on some level, the thought of moving on to a different “no more pregnancy or baby stage” is a bit exciting. But, I just can’t help but feel unsure about that, like I’m not ready to commit to a whole new life stage for our family. I don’t know if I’m ready to say, “We’re done.”
So tell me, how/when did you know you were done having kids?