The adoption profile has become a standard tool in introducing would-be adoptive parents to birth families. It is common for a birth mother or family to review a number of profiles and decide, based on those, which families they’d like to pursue further contact with. The profile is like the most important resume an adoptive family will ever write. Just like with a resume, the profile isn’t likely to be the sole factor in your being chosen, but it can be crucial in getting you the interview.
Knowing how important the profile is made the task of writing ours a daunting one. In essence, an adoptive family is being asked to capture its entire past, present and future in about 10 pages. And, it has to be written in such a way that any birth mother or family would be able to connect with it – no matter where they’re coming from or where they’re going.
I can safely say that without the support and guidance of a very dear friend, also an adoptive mom, I might still be floundering. The greatest lessons I learned from her were to be honest, concise and to use lots and lots of pictures. When it comes to the adoption profile, a picture is worth more than a thousand words. What I learned from her, too, was that despite how it might seem on the surface, the profile wasn’t nearly as much a portrait of my husband and I as it was a window into the life a child would have with us.
When it came down to it, the nuts and bolts of life – how we met, our jobs, house, hobbies, pets – really weren’t so important. More than boiling a life down into 10 pages, our true task was trying to expand every word, picture and page into one word: LOVE.