We love our babies. L-O-V-E them (even though I’ve recognized how much we need to love us, too). But there are moments, hours, days and sometimes weeks when we go C-R-A-Z-Y as moms. Whether we are combatting teething, readjusting nap times, dodging yogurt that has been slingshotted in a spoon back at us (again) or reclaiming our stolen phone away from a screaming/protesting toddler… the best – and most patient – of us sometimes teeter on the edge of losing it.
Thought I’d share some things that I say to myself over and over and over again when I feel myself nearing a breaking point. These mini-mantras have helped me keep my wits through two babies in the last two years… and hopefully they can help you too.
REPEAT AS NEEDED, WHEN NEEDED:
1) This is my job right now. It’s my job to be tough and teach my babe to sleep, to eat, to drink out of a sippy cup, to not freak out if I leave the room for a moment and to learn how to behave semi-decently. It’s my JOB. I’m going to rock it like I would’ve rocked my actual job (in the workplace) before I had kids. (Maybe there’s a promotion down the line?)
2) Stupider people than me have done this and been good at it.
3) I’m bigger than them… therefore in charge.
4) Nothing I do is wrong. Because I’m bigger than them.
5) I made these people. MADE them. That makes me capable and awesome… and in charge.
6) This is all practice for when things get really challenging (like, when they’re in high school). It’s my job to figure out how to deal now. Or else…
7) One day, a very long time from now, I’m going to remember this very moment and laugh. (The mere thought of this thought actually makes me laugh in the moment.)
And if none of these work, just go outside and scream (without waking anyone up, of course).
DISCLAIMER: Obviously, my feeble solutions above are for the day-to-day, trivial challenges that go hand in hand with the first year of baby’s life… the mundane and messy duties of diaper-changing, challenges of introducing new foods, crankiness thanks to not enough sleep, etc. Should you happen to feel completely hopeless and/or depressed in the early stages of your baby’s life, see your doctor for guidance.
WHAT DO YOU TELL YOURSELF TO GET THROUGH ROUGH DAYS?